Such young kids…ten, eleven, twelve years old…ridiculed until they take the “easiest” road out. These kids aren’t even old enough to realize what death does to everyone around them. They have no idea of the impact they make on the world around them when they take their own lives, starting with their families and trickling down to people they might not have ever had the chance to meet.
When I was in junior high, suicide was unheard of amongst my peers. We knew that Kurt Cobain had killed himself in those recent days, but we didn’t know why, we hardly knew how, and we had no idea the enormity of it. We knew to be sad, but we didn’t understand that mourning. We had not yet learned what real love and appreciation for life was. We didn’t value much of anything and it would be years until we started to grasp any meaning of the word “living.” I’m not saying that we were not intelligent or sensitive…in fact, we were mostly instinctual and emotional…but barely intellectual. Just green. At thirteen, you can’t expect much more than that. Smart but inexperienced.
So now, this recent suicide spike is not only unfortunate but also extremely alarming. How are we raising our kids? Is all the processed food that we’re shoving into their mouth’s only feeding their depression? Are we not teaching them how to stand up against bullying? Are we not teaching them how to cope with hopelessness, how to be thick-skinned and how exactly they are supposed to lace up their boot straps? Are we too busy to build a solid home and foundation for our relationships? Do we avoid real conversations with children about how to deal with stress, pain and hazardous people? Are we passing off violent gestures? Instead of discussing their feelings, do we offer them loads of candy and video games?
Do we not teach them compassion, strength, resilience, and love?
I certainly am no expert in parenting nor do I specialize in suicide prevention, but there are certain questions that we obviously have to ask ourselves. There are so many factors that affect these individuals and their situations that it’s impossible to place the blame, but we’ve got to start somewhere.
Offering a solution is something that I may be incapable of with no education in this field, but I’ll keep asking questions until I spark something in someone.
We should all be asking questions, because something needs to change.
- jennhasfeet posted this