Writing that full length. Recording first thing in 2015.
Success is the best revenge.
The way a man’s eyes dart from thought to thought when coming up with a string of lies to pull more money from you at the car dealership.
The subconscious hike of the right pant leg when the engineer at the auto repair shop suddenly realizes that you understand the goal of the carburetor on the 57 Chevy that you brought around is to mix fuel and air for proper engine function and not actually a bread blender. And that the car is your’s.
Or how about the blubbering employee at the oil change establishment…the one blaming you for not returning to the shop sooner when you found the socket wrench he left under the hood of your car?
It’s true that men over-saturate the automotive industry and it’s no secret that women are often cast off as incompetent morons, making it easy to be taken advantage of. How about the music industry?
We have definitely heard that bit: the story of the female musician walking into a venue with the rest of her band who happen to be men and she automatically assumed as the “merch girl”, a girlfriend, a “backstage betty;” a fangirl.
But have you heard the story of the producer, with the microphone turned off, mumbling jokes about how the woman in the vocal booth would sound better with her pants off?
Have you read the comments left on news articles about how a viewer wished to have not seen a music video because he would have rather left the female in the band “to his imagination?”
Does anyone discuss how the countless music industry “professionals” bully and (unsuccessfully) to try scare women into submission. Threatening her music career, “schooling” her on industry “standards” just because she had the nerve to tell someone no.
Well I’m fucking over it.
As a woman who was raised by a vigorous salesman for a father and a mother who has mastered customer service as a 5 foot powerhouse in the suburbs of Detroit, I am fairly seasoned to the bullshit that people try to get away with for selfish gain. Whether roaming around the city, preparing for a performance, dropping by a grocery store or perusing on the internet, I am personally subjected to presumptuous assholes and/or hideous catcalling every.single.day.
No matter what industry we are talking about, I’m tired of the complaints about women who are too outspoken, too strong, too much of a bitch…threatening to deflate the precious egos that these men have blessed themselves with. Sexism is still by and a large a massive problem and although it’s wonderful to see an influx of discussion about sexism in the media these days, it’s unfortunately not enough.
We need more allies. Women might be able to do this alone but the point is to work together.
The paintings of Zdzislaw Beksinski
My favorite painter.
Many self photographs lately but I’ve been feeling really good. This is the month that I feel the most alive and I’ve been working hard. Working on myself so I can help others.
UGH BE STILL MY HEART
If my father taught me anything, you don’t have to explain your integrity to your doubters. Walk away & let your life’s work do the talking.
Thank you thank you!! I usually just delete shit like that anon left but once in a while, you just gotta leave a big ‘fuck off’. But you made my day! :)